Surely, as a mother or father, you have heard your child say on many occasions that something «is not fair.» This statement may be related to the fact that they are not allowed to do something they want or have something they want, but as they grow, this perception can be applied to other more complex situations that not only have to do with them, but with others.
Sigue leyendo «Explaining justice to children»Categoría: English
Divorce
Divorce numbers are very important. In Spain it grows and goes towards 30% on marriages celebrated. In the USA it is above 40%, falling somewhat in recent years. It is a phenomenon that is taking place, at least, in the western world. Giving the statistics of the percentage of divorces over that of marriages celebrated the same year could give an idea of the rate of marital failure; but only if that percentage is maintained for a number of years equivalent to the duration of a marriage. In any case, the divorce figures are very important. Which has led to studies on the influence it can have on children. The social dimension of the effects on the offspring cannot escape us.
Sigue leyendo «Divorce»Save the planet
With so much to say about climate change and how it is affecting our planet, it can be difficult to understand how one person can have a real impact. However, incorporating ecological habits into your daily life is much easier than you think. Although these actions may seem minor, the truth is that they can make a difference. With this we can teach our children to take care of the planet from a young age so that they have a more peaceful and joyful life.
Sigue leyendo «Save the planet»Being a role model
Being a parent is not an easy job and raising a child to be respectful, patient, responsible and hardworking is the dream of any parent. But children are not easy to raise and many times, they learn behaviors (good and bad) by observing their parents. Parents need to be aware that they are ultimately responsible for the development of their children.
Sigue leyendo «Being a role model»Family time
These days, due to work and various responsibilities, it is often difficult to spend quality time with our children. We must make a conscious effort to take time dedicated only to them, but not only being physically present, but interacting together. Spending quality time with the family is of great importance for children, since from this strengthened bond there is a healthy emotional development, greater stability, security and learns to build relationships with other people.
There is no use spending a lot of time at home if you don’t really share time together. Family time means sharing and looking for an activity that everyone can enjoy, it can be a board game for young and old, playing hide-and-seek in the park, singing a children’s song, telling them a story … It is also important Talk to your children, ask them what they did that day, what new things they learned, what they liked the most. This space is very valuable for children and they keep it in mind throughout their lives.
Likewise, the amount of time is also important, the times that they can repeat these experiences and the constancy of these spaces will be those that mark the continuity of the presence of parents in their lives, if they can count on them and they are there when they need them .
Although a father cannot be physically present all the time with the children, it is important that they can let them know that they are attentive to them, for example they can call them during the afternoon at least once to express their affection and when they see them at the end of the day, they will tell you they were thinking about them.
Spending time with your children is an important activity within the family bond, because the longer you are with them, you will have many opportunities to understand them, reinforce their values, teach them new things and prepare them for the future.
Home activities to do with our children:
Leave your comfort zone
In psychology, the comfort zone refers to a mental state where the person uses fear and anxiety avoidance behaviors in their daily life, using a routine behavior to achieve constant performance without assuming any risk, that is, with the “pilot automatic». It is a personal space made up of strategies and attitudes that we use often and with which we feel comfortable, settling in our way of acting because we feel safe. It is an area that only encompasses the known, that environment where we are comfortable and makes us feel safe because everything is under our control, but passivity and routine cause apathy and existential emptiness, preventing personal growth by renouncing to take initiatives that expand the limits of that area. The well-being that is felt is not the product of satisfaction or personal pride, but of the absence of negative emotions such as uncertainty or insecurity when taking refuge in our known environment. The comfort zone is also working on something simple in a safe environment without wanting to promote yourself, or maintain a relationship that gives security despite being unhappy. In the next video we are going to see a little inspiration in front of the comfort zone and how we can get out of it. You can find the english caption in the video.
The importance of goals
Awareness of the great importance of setting goals or objectives is a primary step. Defining objectives is not easy but it makes us direct our actions and efforts towards what we want to achieve. In the student sphere, it is even more important to have a clear direction and a strategy. Setting objectives is essential for the success of our knowledge and education, be it from when we are little until we are about to finish school or university, since they mark a course to follow and serve as a source of motivation and commitment. The goals are not always for our education, but for our personal and emotional development, to evaluate what we want to achieve in a period of time. The goals and objectives are to enjoy and discover new things that is why the first thing we want to tell you is how we must think very well the objectives that we want to set ourselves must be objective and realistic in the short term so that we do not get frustrated, for the goals that do not have a certain time let’s take it easy, let’s not get frustrated that everything is going at a different pace.
Setting a goal is the key to a successful life. From the moment that people decide to focus their efforts on achieving objectives and goals, they began to overcome the most difficult obstacles. Formulating and achieving goals goals is one of the most important activities in people’s lives, it improves their quality of life and makes it possible to make stops along the way, where I am at the moment and where I am going. That is why we generally see this activity in the New Year, to start the year with a clear idea of what we want.
Helping our kids to find their passion
We all come to life to do something, to fulfill a function; We call that vocation, mission or purpose of life. Everyone’s is equally important. We come equipped with the «toolbox» necessary to carry it out: the type of body, the type of voice, thought processes, temperament, abilities, genetic load, talents and interests, appropriate and necessary to carry out this vocation. When we are children we know what it is, in fact we play it and dream about it. The time comes when we must learn to do our job and it is time to study, that is why today we want to talk about how we can help our children to find their vocation easier. We must remind them and give our opinion saying that we should always help and support our children to follow their dreams and passion.
Sigue leyendo «Helping our kids to find their passion»Listening to others
Although our ears are fundamentally important, we really don’t know how to listen well. Much of the time we spend listening to teachers, lecturers, television, as well as the radio and other electronic devices. All of this accustoms us to having a passive attitude when they make sound and verbal information that comes from these sources. And if there is no exchange there is really no communication.
Sigue leyendo «Listening to others»Good manners
Good manners are an important thing to have as they show that you are courteous towards others. Good social etiquette can help you develop better relationships and make it more enjoyable to be in your presence. In case you are eating with other people, be careful to use good manners when eating to show that you are respectful. You should also maintain etiquette when you are online so that you do not offend or share too much information with others.
Having good manners is not just sitting well at the table, or eating politely. It also consists of being considerate of other people, treating them with respect, appreciating good gestures,… and all this is disappearing in an alarming way.
This lack of good manners and courtesy, although it may not seem like it, causes us more stress than we can already suffer from day to day. And it does not allow us to relate to the rest of the world, with the harmony that would be recommended. In short, it causes quite a significant social unrest. As if all this were not enough; Some studies have shown that a lack of courtesy with a colleague, for example at work, reduces the productivity of that employee for a long time.
Regardless of how others act, keep your own good manners. Let the behavior of others not determine yours. Say good morning or reply to whoever gives them, apologize if you think it’s necessary, ask for things please, etc. They do not involve a great effort and you will feel better with yourself and with the world.
If you treat others with respect and politeness, they are more likely to do the same to you. You will be a more attractive person. I am not referring to a physical attractiveness, I mean that we all find it more pleasant to relate to a person who is educated, than with another who is not. You will make others feel good. When you treat people with the respect they deserve, not only will you make yourself feel good, but you will make the people you associate with feel good too.
In general, if we all used the good manners that we undoubtedly know, we could interact more easily and with more well-being for all. And, it costs nothing. A «please», a «thank you», or an «apology», accompanied by a smile, does not involve any effort for you, and you make the moment more pleasant for the other person.
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