In Japan a unique approach is used in raising their children, as they give children a care comparing them to a plant that requires nutrition, training and pruning for it to grow properly. The timing of the development of certain abilities in children depends on the importance that culture places on that ability. Therefore, in Japan, where things like empathy and restricted display of emotions are valued, children can be expected to develop these customs from an early age.
Japanese parenting techniques are fundamentally based on the notions of the dependence of children on the mother. From birth, mothers establish an intimate bond with their babies and continue to strengthen that connection throughout childhood. Japanese parents traditionally handle children’s tasks and responsibilities (dressing, bathing, making the table, etc.) even in adolescence. As opposed to teaching children to be autonomous and independent. Developing this extreme closeness is preferable to modeling, negotiation, and disciplinary techniques when it comes to raising children with social and moral values in Japan. It is tradition for Japanese mothers to rely on the intimate bond they have established with their children rather than punishment or other forceful methods to persuade and force children to behave appropriately.
Japanese mothers determine the education, hobbies, and even career paths that their children will develop and pursue. From this parenting technique, Japanese children learn to diligently obey and depend on the guidance and direction of their parents. Mom’s role is to be extremely careful and selective in making exclusive decisions about where the children go, what they will eat, what activities they engage in, and what they will wear.
Considering how your actions impact others is crucial to maintaining one of the most valuable things in Japan: group harmony. This makes empathy the core of Japanese culture, and to no surprise, the core of Japanese upbringing. While Western parents often demand compliance from their children (for example, through the use of verbal commands and punishment), Japanese mothers are known to constantly teach their children how their actions affect the feelings of others, or even the feelings of animals or objects. Japanese children from an early age begin to absorb the importance of considering others before acting.