Children are indecisive by nature and it is the most normal thing in the world, they debate between ‘yes’ and ‘no’ millions of times. Children under 6 years of age often have problems when making simple decisions and complex decisions are out of their reach. It is likely that your children when they are having toast for breakfast and they see you with cereals also want to have cereals … and this is not envy, it is indecision.
Indecision is normal for young children as they are still developing a sense of self and individuality. By the time a child reaches the age of two, he begins to want to be in control, and sometimes this need arises as a disappointment within him. She will feel what her father wants and then decide not to do it or do the opposite.
He too is too young to be sure what he wants and this leads to «yeses» and «us». Adults who do not understand this type of behavior often mislabel children as fussy, undisciplined, attention seeking, or indecisive. What most parents see in their child as stubbornness can be understood as determination, when viewed from the child’s perspective
So that a child is not indecisive or shows this type of unhealthy insecurity, it is important that from the time they are small they are given the opportunity to choose even the simplest, for example if at snack time they prefer cookies or yogurt, or also if you prefer to go to the park or to play at the cousins’ house. Although it is not necessary to force the children to decide on everything without help, it must be done naturally and always give them a choice between two or three options. In addition, it is very important never to pressure the child to choose something and respect his response time, if we see that he is in doubt, he can be guided with questions so that he discovers what he really wants without the parents imposing anything on him.