One of the learnings that children have the most difficulty doing is learning to share. They do not understand the meaning of another person touching their things, playing with their toys, or receiving attention from their mother. They have an exaggerated sense of ownership, in short, they go through a stage of self-centeredness and assume that they are the center of their world. This is even more reflected when children are only children, since attention is constantly directed towards them. But it is normal for all children to have a sense of belonging to their things and that is why we must promote the idea of generosity from a young age.
The first thing we must think and recognize is that children learn through their parents, for this we must set an example for our children. The example of parents is the best teacher for them. If you are generous with those close to you, your child will realize that it is an attitude that he must ‘copy’. When your child finally makes gestures of generosity, do not forget to praise him so that he understands that you are very happy for his attitude. In the event that they are not only children, encourage them to share with their siblings. You can, for example, buy a dessert to share for your children and have both of them cut it in half. Or if you bought a toy (instead of buying one for each sibling), try to have them set time periods to enjoy it.
Play popular games or board games in which the child has to learn to wait his turn. In this way, he will understand that he cannot always agree to his whims and that he has to learn to give in. For example, you can play with him the classic hopscotch, where each child must wait their turn to jump, rope, where a child shares their jumpers so that everyone can play … or board games like chess, where you must respect a time and a turn with patience.
Teach him to understand his feelings and to express them. Nobody likes to share if it makes them angry and frustrated. But if he expresses what he feels, you can talk to him and explain what he should feel when sharing. When he is able to feel good about sharing his things, seeing the happiness of others, then you have made him truly generous. Give them the opportunity to speak up and tell us if they bother sharing with others and this may be the perfect opportunity to teach them how to share and why this is important.
Sharing and generosity is something that comes with practice when we recognize its true value and how important it is, we come to adapt this emotion in our daily lives and it becomes a comforting action.