On many occasions, when there are emotional problems in adult life, it seems that childhood is the only one involved, but in reality, not all problems can be traced back to the mother. After all, there is another person involved in raising (or at least creating) a child. Also, there are many other important people in a child’s life who influence him or her. There are siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles, godparents, close family friends, babysitters, educators, teachers, peers, and others who regularly interact with a child.
What affects a child’s ability to form meaningful and satisfying relationships with those around them? What factors contribute to your experiences of anxiety, avoidance, and satisfaction when it comes to relationships? Psychologists can say quite conclusively that it is not entirely the fault of the mother or even both parents. Still, we can be sure that a child’s first experiences with their parents have a profound impact on their relationship skills as an adult. Much of the knowledge we have today on this topic comes from a concept developed in the 1950s called attachment theory. Next we are going to explain you about John Bowlby’s attachment theory.
Fear of strangers is a survival mechanism that babies have innately. Babies are born with innate behaviors called social liberators that help nature do its job and both mother and child are linked and this is an attachment figure. For Bowlby, it is an evolutionary issue because the baby’s attachment to the mother is for survival and protection. According to this author, both babies and mothers have a biological need to have contact with each other. It is a protective mechanism for the survival of the species. The attachment, therefore, would be a healthy relationship between mothers and children that would favor a good relationship between them. The innate behaviors of babies such as smiling, crying … function as behaviors of social liberation because they provoke the care of adults towards babies. This care is the responsiveness of attachment.