Life is full of obstacles, which make us learn and move forward. Even if we try, we cannot avoid obstacles and we cannot avoid them to children. It will be the ability to overcome obstacles that will lead us to succeed and achieve our goals. Thus, for example, a child who learns to overcome his obstacles as a child will be able to face different situations in his adult life, seeking an alternative solution, such as before the loss of a job or a breakup of a partner. Overcoming obstacles and the ability to face adversity is very important, and it will be one of the keys to your happiness.
One of the most complicated tasks of parenting and childbearing is to let them face obstacles. In a logical and natural way we tend to protect them and avoid setbacks. And in this eagerness we forget that if we learned the way it was thanks to the obstacles. Development is a path full of experiences, some positive and some negative, but all of them lead to maturation and learning. We cannot expect full development, without obstacles.
As adults we know that obstacles can be painful and also frustrating, but we must also bear in mind that they can be overcome and that every time we overcome an obstacle, our confidence, self-esteem and capacity grow. If we gave up cycling every time we fell to learning, we could never learn. When a child faces an obstacle and overcomes it, the following occurs:
- All frustration is transformed into placid joy. The joy of having achieved it.
- Confidence increases because he looks capable.
- You lose your fear of future obstacles because you know they can be overcome.
- Develops strategies for a complete vision of the problem in search of solutions.
- The discomfort caused by obstacles is reduced.
How to teach how to overcome obstacles:
- Don’t dramatize the obstacles they encounter. They take you as a reference to make attributions of the negative or positive of the situation. If you show them that the situation, although negative, has a solution, they will adopt the same attitude.
- Advise them, teach them different alternatives, and guide them if necessary, but let them face the obstacle. It is about accompanying them but not avoiding the obstacle.
- Even if you are afraid, do not transmit your fear to them. Let them see that you believe in them and that if they fail you will be there to help them again.
- Talk about your obstacles and how you overcame them. We often hide that information from children. It is about making them see that we all sometimes encounter obstacles, but that we can overcome them.
- Let them express their negative emotions in the face of the obstacle, frustration, anger, etc. Do not repress them, but motivate them, animals to keep going, to try another way.