There are times when the desire for the children to move forward outweighs the reality of the situation, as well as that comparisons are hateful and it is never necessary to compare one child with another, especially at an early age. Maybe you have a 22-month-old son who only says dad, and your friends’ 15-month-old children already put two words together … And of course, the normal thing is that you throw your hands to your head and that you take him as soon as possible to the pediatrician and to the ENT to find out if something is wrong with your little one. The pediatrician will tell you that your child is not two years old yet and that you do not worry for now, because each one has their own learning rhythm and there are children who with two years can have a conversation and with others not, and that nothing happens because each child has their own rate of learning.
Sometimes, it is not understood what happens because worry takes hold of the hearts of parents, but it is necessary to understand that children have their own rhythm of maturation and you do not have to want to go faster than them. If a child learns slowly, do not be alarmed because it is normal and does not mean that there is any cognitive problem in the child. Children should not be forced to learn the skills they are considered to have at their age. What is important is not to stop stimulating the little one to continue learning and not get stuck. Learning slowly does not mean that your child is less intelligent than the rest, you just have to respect her rhythm.
Never lose your cool because of the learning pace that your child has, never make him feel inferior to others by not knowing something that he «should know». Take care of the words you use to help her, remember that you have to take slow but firm steps … and together, hand in hand.
When your child learns slowly, then there is an attitude that you have to avoid, such as yelling or punishing him, what would you achieve with these actions? You would only make your child frustrated and feel that he is not capable of achieving things no matter how hard he tries, do you really want that? You should also be prohibited from one thing: MAKING COMPARISONS that will only cause emotional damage and that do not make any sense. You have to help your child to have greater self-esteem, perseverance and patience so that when he does things or learns them, since he is little he does it with love and above all, with the desire to learn.
The first thing you have to do is respect her learning pace and then learn to give her the help she needs. Never do things for him, otherwise, he will think that he is not capable of doing it for himself, having serious consequences for his self-esteem and development. Then, be very careful with the words you use when you are helping him, use words of encouragement not words of accusation or a tone of voice that is aggressive. Take care of their self-esteem with your words and encouragement. What are the goals and how are you doing to get there? It is necessary to be realistic about the real capacities of the little ones to achieve what they are really capable of and at the same time, stimulate them to take one more step. Any learning can have difficulties but what matters is to respect the rhythm, help and above all, motivate from the heart.