It has happened to you that when they were young they made a mistake or said something they did not have to, but instead of being able to explain what is going on in your head at the moment, did your parents chastise you to the point where they would not let you talk? Well, I tell you that sometimes I pass. What you as an adult think is that children are spoiled, that you have to educate them then they will act in an undue way at some point in their life. But what you do not know is that so much development by a small child is missing, we all have opinions, sometimes if things are done for a reason. When I tried to explain my point of view the phrase “I am right and you do not” came to light.
Why do I tell you this? Because sometimes we forget because we spent with our parents, we thought when we did or said something and our parents held back the idea that a child was right and they were not. Of course, as adults and parents we will always believe that we are right, age is on our side and we will always believe that our logic is superior to that of a small child. But now that we talk about this I will tell you that idea kept jumping into my head every time they scolded me and they said “I am right and you are not” because my brain kept thinking “How do you know that you are right if you do not?” Can you know what I think and you will not let me talk? It is for reasons like these that we are going to talk about assertive communication with our children.
Communication is the best basis to have a relationship with our children, and with every human being. It is very easy to communicate, talk and engage in conversation is something we do in our day to day. But … Do you apply assertive communication with your children? Assertive communication is a way to communicate in a clear, simple and positive way with our children, where we show our children that we listen to them and that we will have patience to respond with love and in the best way so that understand We will explain the steps for an assertive communication with our children:
- Listen to your children, try to understand how they feel, listen to their opinions, dreams and desires.
- Create a safe and quiet environment for your children to communicate with you, remember that your position can read your children / as they can understand how your body if you are tense or not.
- When you are going to give an order or correct your child in any of their attitudes, be firm with your decisions, but it is important that you do it in a respectful way with your children.
- Use “assertive” words, these are words that invite your children to share their ideas and feelings. Where you do not feel judged, make it a pleasant space to share all your opinions.